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They Say Hindsight is 20/20: What Couples Valued Most After their Wedding Day.


After 20 years and over a decade of those years providing wedding DJ services to various customers, I wanted to take some time and reflect on what couples say mattered to them most when they looked back on their wedding day. I combined the feedback I have received from customers over the years with a bit of online research.


The one sentiment that brides and grooms consistently expressed was just how precious their wedding day was. Couples expressed just how much more their wedding meant to them when they realized that there was only one first time and one last time when it came to their special day.


Furthermore, a majority expressed that if they could do their wedding day all over again they would have focused more of their budget and attention on having a great time at the wedding reception. As one bride put it, walking down the aisle and saying I do will forever be in her memory and she expected this. What she did not expect was how much she appreciated and valued dancing and celebrating during the reception with her grandmother to Marvin Gaye songs like she did when she was a child. For this bride, there was nothing in the world that could compare to that experience.

Throughout the Sparkside DJs company website, there is a posted graphic of a data study performed by Modern Bride, MSNBC, and The Today Show. This data matches what I have experienced over the years.

I can't even begin to tell you how many times I have had someone tell me how great the ceremony was, only to be disappointed by the reception and ready to leave after dinner was served.


Many couples never give much thought to how important it was to invest in a professional wedding DJ service. They focused on other areas. I do not blame them. After all, almost everyone focuses on attire, the venue, the food, and the floral arrangements before ever thinking about the DJ service. This is to be expected and this is why I created this blog post. A professional DJ service understands how to share information with a couple that will allow them to develop a different perspective when it comes to the success of their wedding day. A perspective based on what the majority of newly married couples say mattered to them most once their wedding day was done. This is important because it is the memories and experience that will be carried for a lifetime. A professional wedding DJ can inform a couple of how valuable the right DJ is to the overall success of their wedding. At the end of the day, the choice belongs to the couple but a good pro wedding DJ understands how to help a couple make an informed value choice that is based on more than just the dollar value of a specific service.


One thing I tell couples is when the time comes to celebrate their 10th wedding anniversary, rarely have I seen couples celebrating or remembering based on how well they met their wedding budget. No, they remember the experience they had be it a good experience or a bad one. They also remember they cannot go back and change what happened on their wedding day be it good or bad.

As part of my research, I decided to tap into the power of Artificial Intelligence. I wanted to see what A.I. had to say about what was remembered most after the wedding. See for yourself the analysis provided.


According to various studies and surveys, there are a few things that people tend to remember most about a wedding:

  1. The ceremony: The actual ceremony is often the most memorable part of a wedding, especially for close family and friends.

  2. The reception: The reception is another important part of a wedding that people tend to remember. This includes the food, music, dancing, and overall atmosphere.

  3. The bride's dress: The bride's dress is often a major focal point of the wedding, and is something that many people remember for years to come.

  4. The couple's vows: The vows that the couple exchange during the ceremony are often very emotional and memorable, and can be a significant part of the overall experience.

  5. The first dance: The first dance between the newlyweds is often a very special moment that people remember for a long time.

Artificial intelligence identifies 3 key items to a wedding's success that can fall squarely on the DJ. The ceremony, the reception, and the first dance.


What else does A.I. reveal to us about the impact of the wedding DJ?


According to various surveys and studies, the wedding DJ can have a significant impact on the overall success of a wedding reception. Here are some of the ways in which a wedding DJ can add value:

  1. Setting the tone and atmosphere: The wedding DJ is responsible for creating the right atmosphere and energy level for the reception. They can use music to set the tone and get guests excited and engaged in the celebration.

  2. Managing the flow of events: The wedding DJ can help manage the flow of events throughout the reception, ensuring that everything runs smoothly and on time.

  3. Keeping guests entertained: The DJ can play a wide range of music to keep guests entertained and on the dance floor. They can also take requests and interact with guests to keep the party going.

  4. Providing a professional and polished performance: A good wedding DJ will be experienced, professional, and able to read the crowd to ensure that everyone is having a good time.

  5. Creating lasting memories: The music played by the DJ can create lasting memories for the couple and their guests. For many people, the music and dancing are some of the most memorable parts of a wedding

A wedding DJ can be an important investment for couples who want to ensure that their reception is a fun, memorable, and enjoyable experience for all of their guests.


The goal of this blog was to provide a comparison between perception and reality. 70% of the time, what was perceived to be most valuable when it comes to a wedding day does not match what was really considered most valuable after the wedding day was completed based on feedback, experience, and data.


It is about value and what the couple considers valuable.

How valuable is it to ensure that you and your guests receive an awesome and memorable experience they will treasure for a lifetime? Do you consider your budget constraints to be more valuable? Perhaps in the short term budget is more important to you however, consider the long term. Bad memories and Bad experiences have a much more lasting impact on you and your guests as opposed to meeting your budget constraints.


I will end by saying over the years I have met very few couples that complained about the cost of their DJ service once the wedding was completed. However, I have met quite a few couples and guests that were disappointed with their wedding DJ or wish they would have invested more to make sure that their reception was better.

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